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Whenever I see this "false kindness", it makes me feel uneasy - it's hard for me to carry discussion with someone who uses overly sensitive tone - I feel like they're not being honest with me and don't "believe" in me being able to talk in a polite, respectful way in case some disagreement arises. I'm trying to be kind myself to other people, though sometimes I may not choose the right words, but if disagreement arises, I would prefer (polite) honesty over fluffy responses about e.g. "difficulty of finding the right decision" or "complexity of the area". I believe that many disagreements come simply from misunderstanding and could be solved by further discussion and explanation.
As an aside, "false kindness" reminded me of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effective_altruism (disclaimer: I don't know much about it other than the synopsis, which stands in stark contrast to empathy/niceness/etc. as it is normally practiced these days).
I guess they may be sort of orthagonal - "false kindness" or "polite honesty" could both be backed by good feeling instead of rational search for most effective solution
Oh yes. I didn't mean them to be the same, quite the opposite. "false kindness" falls under the same bucket as what is known as "feeling caring" in actualism, as distinct from "actual caring" which effective altruism might come close to (albeit in a laborious manner; because in an actual freedom this is all effortless, and becomes second nature): http://www.actualfreedom.com.au/sundry/frequentquestions/FAQ15.htm
Tangential to this, I've started collecting these discussions in a zettel: https://haskell.srid.ca/2012701.html